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Monday, November 30, 2015

Why I Don't Wear a Pink Shirt on Anti Bullying Day

I posted this to my Facebook and decided that while I don't explain myself as articulately as I would like, I'd still share this to my blog.

I remember being bullied emotionally and physically in Junior High School. No one saved me from it.  I lived with the emotional scars for a long time. Because of it, I wouldn't allow myself to be open to new friendships and I stayed cocooned with my childhood friends who I had known forever. I stayed in the safe corners as much as I could.  I am slow to trust and often second guess myself when I do.

It took years to feel like I deserved more. It took years to convince myself that I wasn't worthless.

So this is something that means something deeply for me.

****Soapbox alert**** Some people will disagree with me for parts of this and that's okay. I hope you will all continue to love me anyway.

I am skeptical of campaigns like the pink t-shirt anti bullying one. Why? Because it's easy to wear the pink shirt for one day and talk about how it's bad to bully others. What about the next day and you aren't in that pink t-shirt and you quickly walk by the person getting bullied because you are too scared/busy/embarassed to intervene. What about the next day when you see your friend send a bullying text or make bullying gestures and comments and you don't want to strain your friendship enough to intervene. 

This video gave me goosebumps.

Wear the pink shirt if you want, BUT, when you hear someone make a disparaging remark or make aggressive moves towards someone else stand up and say something. Don't cower. Don't make excuses for them. Be straight up that it's wrong.

I need to do a better job at that. Glad to have the reminder.
****Soapbox alert ended****

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Ready for Winter

It may snow today, they say. I'm ready for it. 

My scarf even matches my toe socks.